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The year of separation: why it must come before divorce

In Germany there is no immediate divorce: as a rule, a year of separation must pass first. It is meant to ensure that the decision is well considered. What matters is what legally counts as separation at all.

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A divorce is granted when the marriage has broken down. This is presumed when the spouses have lived apart for a year and both want the divorce; after three years of separation, the breakdown is deemed irrefutable (§§ 1565, 1566 BGB).
A separation is also possible within the shared home (from bed and board): separate bedrooms, separate housekeeping, no shared finances. In cases of special hardship, a divorce before the year is up is exceptionally conceivable.

What you should do now

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    1. Set the separation

    Record the point of separation; it is also important for support and the equalization of gains.

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    2. Live apart

    Separate areas even in the shared home and no shared housekeeping.

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    3. Arrange the consequences

    Clarify separation support, children and finances early; that makes the later divorce easier.

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    4. Divorce petition

    After the year of separation, the divorce petition can be filed (through a lawyer).

Frequently asked questions

Do I really have to wait a year to get divorced?

As a rule, yes. The law only presumes the breakdown of the marriage after a year of separation, if both want the divorce (§ 1566 BGB). Only in exceptional cases of special hardship is a divorce possible earlier. After three years of separation the breakdown is deemed irrefutable, even if one partner refuses the divorce.

Does a separation count within the same home?

Yes. A separation from bed and board is also possible within the shared home: separate bedrooms, no shared housekeeping, no shared finances. What is decisive is that there is no longer a domestic community. You should record the point of separation.

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General information for self-help, not legal advice (RDG). In case of a high loss or uncertainty: contact a consumer advice center or a lawyer.